Buying your first adult toy can feel a little intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. The goal is to find something that fits your comfort level and helps you explore what feels good. Here’s a simple guide to get you started.
Start small and simple. Skip the complicated gadgets for now—think a basic bullet vibrator or a soft massager. These are easy to use, affordable (most under $60!), and great for figuring out what you like. Look for ones with adjustable speeds, so you can take it slow at first.
Material matters more than you might think. Silicone is always a safe bet—it’s smooth, easy to clean with soap and water, and gentle on sensitive skin. Avoid anything labeled “jelly” or “rubber” unless it says “body-safe” (those can trap bacteria). If you have allergies, stick to medical-grade silicone or stainless steel.
Don’t forget about discretion. If you live with roommates or want to keep things private, pick a toy that’s small enough to tuck in a drawer or looks like a regular item (some even look like makeup brushes!). Many brands now make quiet toys too—no loud buzzing to worry about.
And remember: there’s no “right” way to use it. Take your time, relax, and experiment. If something doesn’t feel good, set it aside and try again later. The best part is exploring what works for you—and that’s different for everyone. Happy shopping!